the language of love
May 14, 2004
jennifer and i talked about this the other day, which was interesting because i had never heard of the idea. According to this book, the five love languages, there are different ways that people express and receive love.
Whether you’re a spouse, a parent, or a single, the five love languages are the same:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Receiving Gifts
3. Quality Time
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch
Finding out what kind of love language the people closest to you speak is pretty smart because you can then show them that you actually do care in a way that they appreciate most. im not saying that they dont appreciate other acts of kindness, but think about how great it is when someone does that one special thing for you. *ahh* sooo nice.
in order to help, i rooted around on the net and found a little quiz that you can take to kinda get an idea of your love language. just go to: what’s your love language?
the rankings of the other 4 for me are:
2. receiving gifts
3. words of affirmation
4. acts of service
5. physical touch.
so go on and take the quiz, then let me know what your love language is! [aww, how cute...that rhymed...haha]
Entry Filed under: Love Life, Quizzical Life. Tags: Acts of Service, Jennifer, Love Language, Physical Touch, Quality Time, quiz, Receiving Gifts, Words of Affirmation.
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Jill | May 14, 2004 at 10:40 pm
my results are *completely opposite* what i expected. maybe my brain is just fried from subbing, because this is totally weird:
1. physical affection — um, what? i don’t really like hugging people. i could even live without shaking hands.
2. words of affirmation — the only part i really identified with on this is “Negative comments cut right to the bone.”
3. gifts — i expected this to be in the middle
4. quality time — eh, whatever
5. acts of service — really thought this would be first. go figure.
i think this test is backwards.
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Kristen | May 15, 2004 at 2:37 am
We learned about this stuff Freshman year…pretty interesting and good to know when dealing with others:)
My results are pretty much what I expected. Some of them could be switched around, but I definitely agree that Quality Time is my #1 Love Language.
1. Quality Time
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Touch
3.
cassie | May 16, 2004 at 1:42 am
1 quality time
2 touch
3 words of affirmation
4 acts of service
5 gifts
really i didn’t know what to expect… i thought service might be a little farther up there. i am a quality time kid though, and i grew up with a lot of people who would definitely get touch for their #1- so i guess they rub off on me.
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Kim | May 16, 2004 at 1:48 am
So, I knew that quality time was a big one for me. I definitley think the love language thing is valid because if i’ve showing my love to someone by spending time with them but they like gifts, then they will not feel loved… so here it goes in a particular order.
1quality time: the thing is i want this time to be spent in conversation or laying around saying nothing… you have to figure that part out.
2acts of service: I would’ve figured this would be after touch, but then again, i do appreciate just random things being done to help save time
3touch: definitley a big fan of a hug or just a pat on the back, i want it to be higher
4words of affirmation yeah, i like to hear i’m good, but it gets old
5gifts i do realize i act awkward at gifts, i enjoy them, but i feel bad that people did something for me…. i’m weird
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Anonymous | May 16, 2004 at 7:31 am
I read this book before Drew and I got married and it helped SOOO much! My top one is gifts and Drew’s is QT. It was helpful to understand that about each other and try not to give love in the ways we feel loved. I try to cut down on the presents, but sometimes it doesn’t work.
Ok enough counseler crap Here’s the results!
1. gifts
2. touch
3. quality time
4. acts of service
5. words of affirmation
p.s. whit- I have been thinking of you and the movie brother bear while up in the North. The sun hasn’t been going down till after midnight…and it is duskish till about 3:30am so no Northern Lights yet…we are staying up tonight to look at the them though…I’ll tell you how it goes!
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Kelli | May 16, 2004 at 11:29 pm
I expected gifts to be my #1 but I didn’t realize that Words of Affirmation would be ranked up at the top too. Interesting…
1. Gifts
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Quality Time
4. Acts of Service
5. Touch